Lost and Found Dimensions

I am of the opinion that people who are lost, have no idea where they are in life, and they have no idea they are lost. This was me. Through my own trials and tribulations in life, I’ve come to learn that there are many dimensions we can live in on this one planet. We believe that whatever dimension we are living in, is what life is on this planet, not knowing that there are better ways to live it, better places–other dimensions.

I recently watched some of the 2013 VMA snip-its and when I saw what some of those artists were doing on that stage–in front of the camera and people, children, families watching from all over the world–I recognized the dimension they are living in. Once upon a time I lived there too. It’s a dimension of extreme social pressure to live up to other’s social expectations and exploitations. It’s a place devoid of peace, is without sense of morality and full of shock appeal. A place where living out one’s way of life is completely self centered “in order to fit in”, in order to “get yours” else “break out and rebel” against something else pressured. It flaunts that sense of “I’m gonna be me and do what I do no matter what anybody thinks or says” attitude. Ever hear the saying, if you got it, flaunt it? This is what thrives in that dimension.

This is only one of the many dark, lost dimensions that exist on this planet, and when I lived there, I had no idea the dimension I live in today even existed. Today I live in the dimension of light–the body of Christ, and I thank God for removing the veil from my eyes while I was lost, so that I could see a better life. So that I could move forward and shed all remnants of that past, painful and unfulfilling dimension. Now I finally get to be in a place of peace, love, sobriety, respect, acceptance, and I don’t have to please any human person in order to be part of the family. I just simply have to be who God created me to be, learn His word and apply His plans to my everyday walk in this glorious dimension that actually exists on this planet. Who knew?

To everyone who lives in this glorious dimension, we know, and are so fortunate to be here. It is my prayer that the lost find what we have found before the end of their lives on Earth. In this dimension, the body of Christ, we are to judge none and love all. Meet people where they are at, never throwing a stone. We must always remember that we’ll never know what it is to walk  even one step in anyone else’s shoes, and we’ll never know the pain that people live with everyday. No matter where people are in life, no matter what they are doing, no matter what dimensions they are living in, we must take a step back and see all people as ourselves–human beings loved by God, loved by Jesus Christ.

Jesus said in John 13:34-35 (NIV):  34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

It is also my prayer that we who live in the body of Christ will live out this word of God in Spirit and in Truth, shining it forward as if it where literally branded on our hearts and foreheads. In the name of Jesus, Amen.

Brandee Nielsen-Smith

Founder – The BICF

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Stranger Danger or Aquaintance Maintenance?

We’ve all heard about stranger danger and teaching children to beware of people they do not know. Great! But, what do we teach them about people they do know? The people they are acquainted with such as family members, teachers, church figures and other authoritative adults. What about other kids, teens and adolescents that they do know and are acquainted with?  Will children, teens or adolescents never face danger with any of these individuals? Statistics show they are more likely to face danger from people they know and are acquainted with than complete strangers. These are known as “acquaintance perpetrators”.

Here are just a few bullets from the Child Abduction/Kidnapping Statistics page http://www.lindenhurststrangerdanger.com/?page_id=2

• Acquaintance perpetrators are themost common abusers, constituting approximately 70-90% of all reported perpetrators.- Finkelhor, D. 1994

• 89% of child sexual assault casesinvolve persons known to the child, such as a caretaker or family acquaintance.- Diana Russell Survey, 1978

• 29% of child sexual abuse offenders are relatives, 60% are acquaintances, and only 11% are strangers.-Diana Russell, The Secret Trauma, NY:Basic Books, 1986

• For the vast majority of child victimizers in State prison, the victim was someone they knew before the crime.1/3 had committed their crime against their own child, about 1/2 had a relationship with the victim as a friend, acquaintance, or relative other than offspring, about 1 in 7 reported the victim to have been a stranger to them. -BJS Survey of State Prison Inmates, 1991

I am a huge supporter of the Stranger Danger message and it’s advocates, and I am acutely aware that the definition of the word stranger does not include the word “danger” nor does it describe a person with ill will intent toward others.  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/stranger describes the meaning of the word as:

1.   a person with whom one has had no personal acquaintance: He is a perfect stranger tome.

2.   a newcomer in a place or locality: a stranger in town.

3.   an outsider: They want no strangers in on the club meetings.

4.   a person who is unacquainted with or unaccustomed to something(usually followed byto  ): He is no stranger to poverty.

5.   a person who is not a member of the family, group, community, or the like, as a visitor or guest: Our town shows hospitality to strangers.

6.   Law. one not privy or party to an act, proceeding, etc.

Every one of us is a stranger to anyone who does not know us. We all need to be aware that whenever we meet a child or anyone for the first time, we are on the potential stranger danger radar (or at least we should be) until there is reason not to be. So let’s put the reality of danger in it’s appropriate context and the truth that it may come with all people and all acquaintances, no matter what age we or they are.  I call this “Acquaintance Maintenance.”

Seeing the potential of danger within a stranger should be a given because we are usually taught to be aware of it. However, what we are taught to be aware of is not always full-proof. Maniacal deceivers are predators that have learned how to prey even on the suspecting by breaking the stranger barrier. Ted Bundy (I cringe at even mentioning his name) was a master at doing this. Predators/perpetrators (whether acquainted or a complete stranger) do this by studying us to identify a weakness or something we can relate to, a common ground if you will. Something that makes us feel comfortable and safe, perhaps something we want. They see the need and take the opportunity to meet it making it hard not to accept. It is nothing more or less than manipulation.

So why do I write this as matter of fact without citing official information or peer reviews? Because I would rather share my own personal experience and bear first witness to you. I have been prey and I have fallen into acquaintance predator traps more times than I care to recall along my way. They come within any type of relationship. However, the ability to see the potential of danger within an acquaintance before it gets us is difficult, and it puts us at a greater risk because we don’t expect it from an acquaintance. We can’t fathom harm because we think we know this person and believe that they would never harm us. We may even deny that we are already living in harm because it’s just too hard for us to believe and accept that this person, who we thought we knew, is suddenly our enemy. Been there, done that, got the T-Shirts (plural)!

I believe that maintaining our acquaintances with all people should include the acceptance of truth that anyone is capable of doing anything, and though I also believe we must give people the benefit of doubt, we should always check our inner compass, or rather—“our gut feelings” when we encounter people. I know now, that if there is anything that feels awkward in my encounters with people I either know or don’t know, I immediately seek to understand what the awkwardness is and decide how to react on the spot. If I ever feel like I am being manipulated, I invoke caution and do what my instinct tells me to do. I will never compromise my thoughts or feelings that tell me to “run.” I will never compromise my gut feeling that tells me to say “no.” Have I been and will I be right 100% of the time? Probably not, and for this reason I will always maintain composure and treat my acquaintances with respect even when I must retract from them due to my sensing danger. We can always address it directly with them on safe grounds later if warranted. We can always talk to others we have learned to trust or even a professional on the matter later.

So how in the world do we prepare children for this potential and keep them safe, without fear and their innocence in tact? It is nearly impossible to cover all of the potential scenarios that a person/child may face, and then how to react in the face of a potential predator when they do, but we can teach people to trust their inner compass. God has equipped us humans with an inner compass, and we usually do recognize when something is wrong. However, how we react to what we determine is wrong is paramount. We can responsibly tell our children about these truths without harming their innocence and remembering that they’ll need to know this now and as they get older. Children are not the only prey out there. I believe that teens, adolescents and adults are preyed upon every day by deceivers who use the same tricks, though adjusted according to age!

Here is an interesting article posted by Checklistmommy on the subject of how we might address this with children. I like most of it, and have different opinions on other parts, but they are onto the fact that its not “strangers” by definition that pose danger: http://www.checklistmommy.com/2012/02/09/tricky-people-are-the-new-strangers/

In the meantime, I’ll keep studying the topic discussions and statistics and maybe someday I’ll write a book called Acquaintance Maintenance! ;-)

God’s peace,

Brandee Nieslen-Smith

Founder – The BICF

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Are You Called to Concert Ministry?

Hey music friends! I just finished a call-in interview on the House of Praise WTIS 1110AM where I shared what I regarded as highly valuable nuggets gained from The Next Level songwriter workshop  hosted by veteran and may I say icon, Babbie Mason.

I’ve been to a lot of secular songwriting workshops with veteran and new hit songwriters in the past, and I’d like to say to the youth and others who are new to songwriting or looking to advance, veteran songwriters are still writing and co-writing “current hits” sung by your favorite current artists regardless of genre. ALWAYS take the opportunity to learn from them! Babbie’s Next Level workshop was catered to a small group in an intimate setting, where she and co-host Kenn Mann (also a hit songwriter) would be up close and personal in getting to know us. Babbie took us through an academic course in songwriting and concert ministry. We sat in a roundtable setting where Babbie took the time to hear everyone’s story and goals, and she made sure that every student got up to sing at least a verse and chorus, and she appreciated and made suggestions to each one based on her invaluable knowledge and lifetime experience.

Babbie and Kenn gave a song writing assignment to us students in groups, and then reviewed our results, humbly and encouraging they critiqued and suggested changes, Babbie even getting on her keyboard to work it out with each group. She got involved personally with every person in the room, giving her attention to and focus upon each individual, also sharing her stories and experiences.   I’m still amazed that she accomplished all of this in 8 hours with 15 people in the room, included a call in from Donna Douglas (another Christian and Secular hit songwriter), and a video from current CCM artist Jonny Diaz. What Babbie did was form a relationship with each person. The word humble does not describe how humble Babbie is.

Here’s more… it didn’t cost the hundreds or sometimes thousands of dollars that it costs to have this kind of appointment with a veteran songwriter. What she cared about most is to make sure that we left there knowing this: We are not in our current place as music ministers by accident… we are not seeking to grow in our passion and hone our gifts merely for the sake of learning… somewhere, someone is in need of our gift, so it is important to say yes every time we receive the opportunity to sing in ministry, regardless of the venue, equipment, time or place… because that somebody who needs you, could be right there in that opportunity. When God calls you to it “GO”! To hear a veteran share that she does whatever it takes, even if it means taking an old boom-box or kareoke machine into a jail cell so that she has background music while she ministers to incarcerated women “as she has done”, was massive validation for me!

If you are a worship leader, christian artist, or even if you only lead or participate on a worship team, someday you may be out in a public place where someone recognizes you and asks you to sing… if so, do it! Even if it’s just one chorus, as your doing so it could be the Spirit reaching out to that person, answering a question or need… perhaps it’s someone standing next to you. Whatever it is, just be available at all times to use your gift for God! This also means you need to be prepared at all times, in vocal shape, knowing your songs, their parts, warmed up and ready to go, for God!

Thank you Babbie Mason and Kenn Mann

Brandee Nielsen-Smith

Founder, The BICF

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Ladies: Are You a Blessing or a Curse?

I never imagined I’d see this day in my life where I truly understand the meaning of dignity, when I thought I already knew it.

Though I had a very rough start as a child and through my teens, I have always been a woman who is unafraid to explore my passions and talents (even as a young child and teen), to drive success, to challenge and stretch myself in unchartered areas of arts, business, academics, fitness, sociality—life in it’s plain, obscure, meager and extravagant ways. I push the envelope as far as I can afford in time, space and finances in any given season of my life.  However, conducting myself in this manner can either be a blessing or a curse when dignity is not truly understood and upheld. When misunderstood it bears nothing but the latter.

Living in this world as women, we are subject to the world view, and in our home culture, we are subject to the social views of what we should look and act like in order to be noticed, receive attention and opportunity. Women begin to shape their lives during their teens and early adulthood according to these views, and if we are not aligned with the right view, we are headed for a dignified disaster.

When aligning my character traits with the social views I believed were necessary for me to be noticed, receive attention and opportunity in America, I entered into a realm of disrespecting myself. Completely blinded from the true meaning of dignity. I bought into the belief that I need to look like a supermodel or fitness model and “show it off”, while I was completely in denial that I was even doing so. The old term “if you got it, flaunt it” made sense to me in terms of appearance. Thinking that if I’m in perfect body shape, you’ll think I’m perfect. Carrying this around in all aspects of my life in professional and personal settings, I look back now and see how utterly ridiculous I must have appeared. Some people saw it too, and others who were also caught up in the same social hype thought it was great. I rolled with them.

I’m now saddened and disappointed every time I see a woman or young girl (especially those who know and claim to follow Christ) post pictures of herself scantily clad, showing cleavage and blowing kisses, or in bikinis or lingerie on social media. My heart breaks for her and the people she is influencing. This includes those face and fitness shots I used to love taking and flaunt under the guise of “health”.  Those sexually insinuating poses on women’s faces and body placement with the wind blowing in their hair under a caption promoting good health are a false example.  They are not aligned with the true meaning of dignity, which upholds keeping oneself healthy and in shape, and they are certainly not aligned with the better plan that God has for us women who have committed our lives to Him. This image is not the example Jesus has in mind for us to empower other women.  Image is but one example, I can go on and on with the subject of how society paints the perfect girl or woman, and how I was completely caught up in it.

I am a woman who has been blessed with physical attributes as well as internal. I’m not afraid to admit this, and I continue to take care of myself in both aspects, with dignity in tact. I am not jealous of women who have the same and more. I am not someone sitting here wishing I looked like her or did this or that like her who is caught up in today’s social image. I want no part of being anything like “the her” that I used to be. Being her sent the wrong message to others. Being her made some men think I was someone to be treated as if they could use and abuse me, being her made some people think I was shallow, and worse, being her made some people think I would not accept them for who they are, and, set a destructive example for young women and girls.

I hear that ole’ saying “it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks,” this couldn’t be further from the truth!  It matters what people think. Through my vainly dignified direction I steered those young girls and women down the wrong path! I can’t imagine what my own daughter thought and experienced watching me go along in that way. What people think becomes their understanding of you, their actions toward you and words against you. If you want to be held in high regard, be noticed, receive attention and opportunity, then conduct yourself in the true meaning of the word dignity, which defines the quality and state of being worthy and honored.

The power you have in dignity is immeasurable when exemplified in your character. Be the beautiful you on the outside and the inside, with dignity in tact, and watch your life grow beyond where it can’t when you are trapped in the social view of what a women should look and act like. Take what you’ve got and be a blessing rather than a curse.

All the glory be to God!

Brandee Nielsen-Smith

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Who Is Jesus Christ?

Jesus The Man

Jesus was born approximately 2000 years ago in a town called Bethlehem, which was and still is a Palestinian city located on the West Bank south of Jerusalem. His mother Mary was a young, Israelite Jewish woman of Nazareth in Galilee, and his custodial father was Joseph, husband of Mary, also from Nazareth in Galilee. You can find many books and articles that offer details about the birth of Jesus and his parents. To start we recommend the book of Luke (Luke 2:1-38), and the book of Isaiah (Isaiah 7:14, 15). There are also wonderful video dramatizations that offer a visual portrayal. We recommend Jesus of Nazareth (starring Robert Powell), and The JESUS Film (which can be viewed as a free, online movie translated in many world languages).

Jesus The Teacher

Jesus is by words and deeds the greatest example for how to live a purposeful, fulfilling life in harmony with others. To the people of his time he taught new concepts for living life that historically changed the world. His life on Earth marked the beginning of our current calendar in the year of 2013 AD (Anno Domini). His teachings are arguably more necessary now than before, as Jesus’s teachings gave us specific tools for managing our lives in today’s society, and for generations to come. Among them are:

  • Power:  In physics, power is the rate at which energy is transferred, used, or transformed. In politics and social science, power is the ability to influence the behavior of people. We agree also with the Evangelical Dictionary of Theology on the definition of Power, which includes excerpts in the book of 2nd Peter 1:3-9 “utilizes the concept of power in life as an empowerment from God, giving us everything we need for life… is the foundation and motivation to pursue a circle of virtues that produce and evidence productive living. Our favorite description of power is found in the book of Isaiah (ISA 40:29) referenced as “giving strength to the weary.
  • Hope: Promotes the belief in a good outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life. Another definition of hope is “to desire with expectation of obtainment”; or “to expect with confidence”. And as with the word power, we agree also with the Evangelical Dictionary of Theology which references hope as “leading to joy, boldness, faith, love… and that hope leads to comfort.” All of which is taught in the books of Romans (ROM 12:12), 2nd Corinthians (2 COR 3:12), Colossians (COL 1:4-5) and 1st Thessalonians (1 TH 4:18). One of our favorite notions of hope is found in the book of Proverbs (PRO 23:18) whereby it states that: “hope will not be cut off.”
  • Purpose: We are born with a specific purpose for living life. We have been given special and unique talents that are necessary for all human beings to succeed. The word purpose is defined as; the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc. Jesus taught us in the book of Romans (ROM 12:4-18) about purpose in action; just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function… we have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us… if your gift is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.” Makes perfect sense! A current example is the purpose of the BICF, which is to use the specific gifts we were given to help others succeed. When we use our gifts as they are intended, our lives are rich in meaning, fulfillment, managed with a sense of ease, and of course—are lived on purpose! Life just feels better when we do what we are meant to do.

Jesus The Healer

Jesus is a healer. The definition of the word heal means to; make sound or whole <heal a wound> to restore to health; to cause (an undesirable condition) to be overcome; to mend: <the troubles … had not been forgotten, but they had been healed — William Power>; to patch up (a breach or division) <heal a breach between friends>; to restore to original purity or integrity <healed of sin>. This definition ascribes to Jesus as a healer. We learn from the book of Luke (LUKE 5:17-26) that “it came to pass on a certain day, as he (Jesus) was teaching, that there were Pharisees (a political party; or, ancient Jewish sect) and doctors of the law sitting by, which came out of every town of Galilee, and Judaea, and Jerusalem: and the power of the Lord was present to heal them.”  The full account in the book of Luke gives details of the ailments healed by Jesus. A first hand account in a current day life written in a true story by BICF Founder, Brandee Nielsen titled Unforgotten, bears witness and gives testimony to the healing power of Jesus.

Jesus The Savior

Jesus is the Savior of mankind. We read in the book of John (John 3:16) that Jesus is the only begotten Son of God, whose purpose is to provide the only way to come before the Father (God, who is the creator of Heaven, Earth and the Universe). As the Son of God, Jesus sacrificed His own life and was crucified on Earth to pay the price of sin committed by every human being that has, does and will ever live on planet Earth. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Sin can be described as an immoral act; wrongdoing; crime; bad thinking and bad actions applied upon oneself and/or others; breaking the laws of land and/or of God, etc. The acts of sin are many. Among them are deception, stealing, cheating, kidnapping, rape, murder; causing others to stumble, bullying, lusting, etc. Imagine the price that must be paid for these type of sins, then imagine all the people that ever lived and will ever live. Committing the act of Sin, separates us from our creator, God.

So, why do we need a savior? To deliver us from sin and allow us to come before God. Paying the price for sins while living on earth is experienced every day. Consider for example a person who is trapped in alcoholism, which is a sin or transgression against oneself (sin of the flesh). The price of alcoholism charged against one’s life is devastating to that person and others around them. Through repentance, which involves a commitment to personal change and resolving to live a more responsible and humane life, deliverance from the sin of alcoholism lifts the devastating bonds and grants a new start, a chance to repair damages, a clean slate upon which to build a life without sin—free to flourish. This allows one to get back into the good graces of their loved ones, especially, God.

Consider also when a person commits a sin against you, wrongs you, hurts you. When the person realizes their wrongdoing, and turns to you with sincere apologies, and perhaps commits an act of retribution for what they have done wrong, you generally forgive that person, and in your act of forgiveness, you are both set free from the suffering of the wrongdoing. We read in the book of Ephesians (EPH 2:1-3) that in sin we are dead, but we are made alive in Christ, the Savior.

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When a Child Discloses Abuse

Imagine for a moment that you are a mother, or if you are a mother, ask yourself these questions:

  1. What is your first reaction if your child makes verbal claims of having been sexually abused?”
  2. “What is the correct initial response in handling the situation?”
  3. “Are you sure you know what the correct response is, and how you will respond to this situation if it hasn’t happened to you?”

If it has happened to you, I’m so sorry, and pray that all is and will be well with you and your family, in God’s hands.

I personally subscribe to “needing to have gone through a situation myself, in order to have a plausible idea”, because until you are, how can you say for certain what someone else will do, should do, or is even capable of doing in that moment?

If I hadn’t actually experienced this circumstance in a similar manner, I could take my best guess from a logical perspective even though I’d be void of understanding the probable emotional experience. I’d likely surmise that the first thing I would do, should do and would be capable of doing, is to “call the police.” However, I can’t say this for sure, and I am not void of the probable emotional experience. Once upon a time I was an adolescent witnessing the first reaction of my mother (may she rest in peace), in a similar situation.

My mother was working when I unexpectedly arrived at her workplace in the wee hours of the morning when I was supposed to be all tucked away at a sleepover with my new friend, who was the daughter of the sleepover host–my father’s boss. All it took was one look at my stature and she knew. Her first response was to scream at the top of her lungs–clearly in a fit of rage–words I will not repeat, but will give a clue by saying that she expressed what she wanted to have happen to the man that harmed me.

You could hear a pin drop in the room now silenced among customers looking back at her in shock, including me. She didn’t call the police in that moment, or any moment thereafter. She wanted to take matters into her own hands, and considering those words she screamed, thank God she never did. In her moment of instant confusion, fear, anger and pain, she appeared to lose composure and any sense to invoke logical thought.

Seeing my mother so desperate in that moment, I began to lie, hoping that my fabricated story of not having been harmed would somehow make her feel better, and make it all go away.

My mom may or may not have believed my lie, I’ll never know for certain. Though regardless of my fabricated story to make her feel better, it couldn’t erase the facts of what was evident to her.  A man that she knew, who she trusted and gave permission to guard me, took me to a place of his own accord for the benefit of his own dark and evil purposes−without her knowledge. This fits the description of having been kidnapped, which is a federal crime. No, my mom did not call the police and I was satisfied with that, because it meant I wouldn’t have to face or deal with the truth, and my mom would be spared from hearing the truth.

A recent child abuse claim that occurred in the state of Maine (the mother–whose name I refer to as Laurel Hope)  differs from my experience in several aspects such as the existence of a decade between our ages at the time, and, there was no custody battle in my case, several aspects strike a resemblance.

I believe I was initially introduced to this case because I support the fight against child abuse. I received a plethora of information about the case. The court documents and other material described as evidence was published in various web posts, web journals, web blogs and various social media sites. Included were video and audio recordings, as well as what appeared to be untouched images.

Out of curiosity I clicked on the links to listen to the audio recordings said to be the voice of the child claiming abuse.  What I heard on these recordings had a tremendous impact on me. I consider them “bone chilling” to say the least! They left a haunting, recurring residue in my mind and soul. That very young voice and the specific claims rendered me “severely concerned for the safety of this child.” That’s when I began to review the official court documents that were available at the aforementioned locations.

Laurel Hope claimed that her child disclosed unspeakable abuse, several times, and as a result she took the child to be examined, repeatedly, by doctors, to hospitals, to one of the most long standing-highly regarded organizations examining abuse in that region. She and the child had many interviews and received opinions from experts in the field, among them are Professors and Doctors from top Ivy League schools, DHHS, a former RN, and more.

Several resources documented and reported the results of their opinions as rule of law, substantiating the child’s claims to be true. Among the information made available was a statement purportedly written by a highly trained, former medical professional who reviewed the case, spoke with the child several times, was convinced (per the statement) that the abuse occurred repeatedly, but did not testify.

I then decided to review everything made available at the time in making a decision on if and how I would support this child. In addition to listening to the recordings of the child’s voice, I read all the documents referred, and I took the liberty to study facts about similar cases. I needed more information and through the additional research, I found reports about failures–actual and factual documented flaws attributed to States and man’s actions, processes and man-made organizations. This raised more questions in regard to the training rule taught to professionals that when a child discloses sexual abuse, the professional is “required to believe the disclosure, stand by the child and report the disclosure – granting them immunity.” I found studies revealing difficulty for some professionals to actually report claims of abuse, considering the traumatic impact it may have on the family in their own lives. I found that “recanting” is known to be part of a victim’s coping process due to the dynamics of secrecy, helplessness, entrapment and accommodation, facts about a specific therapy that provides a safe and therapeutic environment for sexually abused children to easily disclose graphic information about their abuse to pets/animals, which bolstered my opinion of what I heard on those audio recordings.

This result was enough for me to take a stand and write a letter to the US Attorney General, requesting a review into this case.

Since then the courts have spoken in this case regardless of my opinion or anyone else’s, and “that” as they say, “is that” as the rulings went against the mother, what seems to be largely due to her behavior, and or lack thereof.

I remain in support and I subscribe to believing that the majority of people in this world have  good intentions, and some people actually get it right. All people including myself will make mistakes. However, I also acknowledge that there are others out there who make them by choice, deliberate and callous. When this unspeakable choice occurs, others, children, innocent people suffer.

There is light in this world that reveals truth, and there is dark in this world that shadows truth. It has been so since the beginning of time, and will continue until the day we are in the presence of Jesus Christ.

May the Lord God bless and heal abused children and their families.

Brandee Nielsen-Smith

(This blog is closed for comment and replaces others posted in early 2012 regarding a child abuse claim within a custody case in the upper North East Region of the USA. Names have been changed or omitted to avoid revealing actual identity. Links and references to topics and subjects in the matter have been omitted to allow truth seekers the space to research information on their own in forming opinions based on facts they find.)

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Don’t Miss “Women of Purpose!” January 4th and 5th 2013

The BICF is excited to announce that Brandee Nielsen-Smith will join the Strive for Greatness, Women of Purpose conference  leading Praise and Worship on January 4th at the beautiful Grand Hyatt Hotel on Rocky Point, Florida!

Men, still need to find that perfect gift for your wife, mother or sister? Look no further! Send your special lady to kick off the new year by attending this inspiring weekend retreat! Ladies will be among peers to get refreshed and encouraged to live free being all they were created to be in 2013 and forward!

Don’t miss this 2 day opportunity in beautiful Tampa Florida to experience an enthusiastic line up of women speakers including celebrity actress and author LISA WHELCHEL (best known for her role as wealthy Blair Warner on the 80′s sitcom “Facts of Life”, currently on the hit T.V. series “Survivor”).

Act now and receive an early bird savings through December 15th! Only $79.00 for 2 full days of inspiration and praise to ignite change and purpose!

Date: Jan 4th and 5th 2012

Time: Doors open at 9:00am, 1st session starts at 10:00am sharp!

To register click here=> Strive For Greatness

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